Over Forty Dating Advice

Are you suddenly alone, or lonely, and over forty? Tired of sending dull weekend afternoons by yourself? If you want to meet some new people and start getting back into the swing of things, then get going!

Some divorced or widowed people tend to hibernate while others may go to the opposite extreme. Some take drugs or drink alcohol to excess. Some hibernate while others almost kill themselves with excess. Just stop. It’s not the end of the world if you are over forty. This is prime time for yourself. The kids are grown and you can do what you want, as long as it doesn’t hurt others, or yourself. Financially, you are probably more stable. Romantically and intimately, you may be as nervous as a rookie with a potential partner. Look at it another way — now you can have fun experiencing everything in the world, as if it’s the first time.

This is your second chance at life. Who amongst us gets that very often? So, what are the right actions? First, give yourself time to grieve. Lie low for a little while, before emerging, just like a turtle. Don’t make it too long, though. Don’t wallow in self-pity or too much junk food. If your newfound singleness is due to divorce. Leave the baggage behind. You are now a whole other person. Don’t hang on to pain.

You are worth a lot more than a bunch of old and bad memories. Who cares about what led to the divorce? It’s over. This period in your life can lead to beneficial self-evaluation. Work on it.

Concentrate on you, not your ex. What can you do to make your life better? What changes can you make in your personality, your attitude, and even the way you dress or your approach to others when you meet them?

Don’t waste time or energy on the ex spouse and what they should be doing or thinking. Concentrate on you. Own your own life and fate. When we focus on what we can do, we start to move towards that goal and not the past. We can enter new careers and take on new challenges and ways of doing things, that might have been overwhelming before. We see our life as full of possibilities, not just time spent within the confines of someone else’s rules and requirements and restrictions.

Write your own life’s screenplay. You’ll win an Oscar. Look within. Create your own life in the present, the here and now, and not the past.